Dating a girl with the same birthday
When I lived in Italy, I often got approached by different men who wanted to ask me out.All kinds of people, too – waiters, policemen, the guards at the Vatican Museums, shop keepers.To keep the conversation non-datish, the subjects you talk about are usually very neutral ones such as the housing market, Stockholm versus Gothenburg, how great your i Phones are, or how much the public transportation system irritates you (actually, the Swedish public transportation system is among the best ones in the world).Girls, don’t read anything into it if the guy doesn’t pay, you’re expected to split the bill in the name of equality.Either way, the chances are good that you’ll exchange phone numbers, which is crucial for the next step.Assuming that things went well at the club, sometime in the next few days one of you (it might just as well be the girl as the boy) will text the other and ask them out for a The fact that both of you are aware that you’re on a date while simultaneously pretending that it’s not a date can make things quite awkward, but that’s how it’s done.From the moment the two of you start dancing, the rules aren’t as strict as before.Depending on your moves and all-around charm, you might just share that one dance, or you might even spend the night together.
Many people regard those who only hang out in the bar as suspicious*. If you catch somebody’s eye, and the two of you look at each other for more than a second, then you’re good to start dancing with each other (at this point, you don’t even have to ask about the dance, you both know it’s coming).
I might add that texting is the preferred channel of communication with Swedish guys.
It’s important to keep track of whether he ends his text messages with meaning ”kiss”.
This dating culture differs a lot from Sweden’s, and it just goes to show that if you want to make it in the dating game in unknown territory, you’d do well to find out which rules apply there first.
*A couple of years ago there was a hit hip-hop song that played on this.
Eventually you’ll have another date, usually at the cinema, and if that goes well too, you’ll have what constitutes a relationship.